Let’s face it. Wedding planning is never easy. As much as it can be fun and exciting (after all, you’re getting closer to marrying the love of your life!), overindulging and not taking time out for yourself can affect you in a not-so-fun way. Amidst all the major decisions, the dreadful budget talks, and uncomfortable family dynamics, it’s reasonable to feel like you’re losing yourself under pressure. If you find yourself about to go down that rabbit hole or want to avoid getting there before you get started, here are a few tips to keep in mind.
1. Prioritize What’s Important to You. A great way to get started is by making a list of things that are most important to the two of you. Focus on the must-haves first and work your way around the rest after that. The elements that don’t align are where you compromise and make adjustments. Moreover, this is your wedding. So don’t spend your money on things you think you need to have, but rather on things you love. For example, if you favor pies or donuts, make that your main dessert instead of a traditional cake!
2. Hire a Planner. You may be planning an extravagant wedding or an intimate celebration. Regardless, one of the first things to check off your list is getting a planner. With someone there to sort out the logistics and schedule everything knowing the A-Z of weddings, it becomes easier to work through the process without being rushed and missing out on opportunities. This also gives you enough time to focus on yourself and your loved ones!
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3. Ask for Help. Your bridal squad is all our best girls standing by your side as you make the promise of forever. But it’s not just at the altar that they stand with you. Right from the start, your bridesmaids are there to make your wedding memorable, personal, and as stress-free as possible. Plus, as a bride, it’s your time to shine and feel like one! So let them pamper you and help out with whatever you need. Don’t be shy to ask. From stuffing envelopes to deciding on your bridesmaid dresses, even scheduling a manicure appointment, you can always ask your friends to help take some tasks off your hands.
4. Be Flexible. You probably have a clear vision of what your wedding day is going to look like. While it’s good to have ideas, it’s important to consider the possibility of certain things not going as per you’re original thoughts. With budget restrictions, your fiance’s requests, and uncontrollable factors in mind, be careful not to get too fixed on the specifics. This way, you won’t get too stressed about the small things that don’t actually need so much of your time and energy.
5. Get your Partner Involved. Oftentimes, it’s the brides who are more involved in the planning processes, while the grooms are just expected to be there at the end of the aisle. But it’s their day too! They are equally part of the wedding, so encourage your partner to share their inputs on things and take them along to meetings with your vendors. But that’s not all! Dividing tasks with them not only gets them engaged but also takes a considerable amount of pressure off your shoulders. This also makes it easier to be flexible with certain decisions, making the process all the easier.
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6. Take Breaks & Daydream About the Wedding. Yep, you’re allowed to have wedding-free days! To avoid overworking yourself and getting drowned in all the little and big details, give yourself the occasional time out and some well-deserved pampering. This could mean going for a spa session, a shopping spree, some excessive, or literally anything you’d like to do! Going on dates with your fiance is also a great way to take your mind off the wedding for a while. Be with each other completely and don’t just talk about the wedding. Remind yourself why you’re getting married and know that just because you’re taking a break from planning doesn’t mean you can’t fantasize about the big day. Because we get it, it’s just too exciting not to think about!
7. Disconnect from Social Media. Pinterest and Instagram are filled with all kinds of wedding inspo, but sometimes it can be an overload of information. It’s easy to get lost in all the different ideas and designs, making it confusing and harder to make decisions. Unplug from the world for a while each day and just enjoy each other’s company. The build-up to the wedding day will only intensify the love you share, making your day all the more special.
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8. Explore New Music. Setting your wedding playlist can be a real task when you get to it, and couples often underestimate the importance of a good setlist. But one way to ease the process is to start early on without making feel like a task. It’s easy to do with selecting tracks since most of us listen to songs almost every day. While you’re chilling out and relaxing with music, try playing something new and discovering genres you haven’t heard yet. You might come across some fun songs for your reception party or finally find that unique first dance number that you’ve been struggling to finalize.
9. Let Go of Perfection & Have a Plan B. Literal perfection is perhaps impossible to achieve, so why waste your time striving for it? We’re not saying you need to settle for anything less than what you want, but remember that not everything can be controlled. Sometimes even the most planned things can change last minute. Like rain on your wedding day! But they don’t always have to be a bad thing. Being prepared for the unexpected is always a good idea. Remember to enjoy the process and not sweat about the small stuff.
10. Enjoy the Journey. Some brides-to-be feel guilty for not enjoying every moment of what’s supposed to be the most exciting time of their life. But you have plenty of people around to help you out. Plus, this is a once-in-a-lifetime experience you get. And you’re the star! So make the most of it and take it all a little less seriously.
Brides looking to do some self-care can also see these simple ways to destress and prepare for the wedding.
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