Choosing your bridal party can be equal parts fun and stressful. For some people, selecting your maid of honor is a no-brainer, but for some of us, it can be stressful. On one hand, you don’t want to pressure anyone into a role that they don’t want or can’t handle, on the other hand, you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not asking them.
But getting surrounded by your best gals, there are lots of other things that come into play – from existing expectations among friends and family to the strength of different relationships. Here are our 5 tips to make your selection process easier.
What does a Maid of Honour do?
The Maid of Honour (or Man of Honour, where applicable) serves as the chief bridesmaid. She/he acts as the bride’s key personal attendant both during the engagement and on the big day, with an aim to reduce stress wherever possible and lend a hand or opinion whenever needed.
Make Sure Your Candidate Understand The Responsibility
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It may sound like a job interview, but you have to set certain criteria in place. First and foremost, they should be able to understand the responsibilities. Along with this, they should have leadership qualities, delegating abilities, and effective communication. They should be multi-taskers. If they possess party=planning skills, that’s an add-on. Speech is another important factor you must consider if you are planning to have a MOH speech.
Honestly Evaluate Your Bridesmaids
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You will likely have pinned down your bridesmaids early on, but who gets promoted to the MoH position. When thinking about how to choose a maid of honor, one of the most important qualities is leadership ability. Assess their strengths and weakness. Ask these questions to yourself!
Someone You Can Trust?
Someone Who Can Plan?
Someone Who Can Host?
Someone Willing to Help?
Someone Who Supports You?
Don’t Feel Pressured Into A Decision
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Often family member thinks that you will choose your sister or cousins from your family as your MOH. But we say, don’t feel obliged to do so! The decision really lies in who you are closest to among your friends and families, someone you can trust and someone you can confine to sharing your thoughts on how you want things to go around during the wedding.
Don’t Be Confined By Gender
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Don’t be confined by the notion that a bridesmaid can only be a girl. There is a big responsibility when it comes to delegating wedding tasks. Do not wonder whether they would be able to do the girl’s task as sometimes, men prove to be better at handling challenging situations than women. Uncle not agreeing to sit backside? No problem. Send you guy to do the job and consider it done.
Go With Your Gut
As with most things in life, it’s always a good idea to trust your instincts. Sometimes it’s best to ignore your logical brain and embrace the feeling in your gut that should point you in the right direction. Likewise, if you have a bad feeling about picking someone as your maid of honor, it might be wise to heed your instincts and take that person out of the running.
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