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Matter Is The Minimum – Black Lives Are Worthy, Beloved & Needed!

“The time is always right to do what is right.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

#blacklivesmatter is not a protest, it’s a sentiment! It started in the US, but the emotions are shared by people across the globe. From the UK to Europe to Australia and South Korea, the movement has sparkled tangibility and demands equality in multiple spheres of humanity. And why not! Why should we have to raise our voice against something which should not even occur in the first place? We at DWP, are strongly against racism and brutality. As a platform where we bring 500 attendees from more than 70 countries, diversity and inclusion are the core of our business. Our objective is to make everyone feel welcomed and we will work towards making sure you feel special irrespective of your color. We know that there’s still a lot of work to do, and we are committing to sharing information through our platform whether it’s our conference, blog, or social media posts to bring positive change and include diversity and spirit of equality now and forever.

Black wedding vendors are producing some of the most stunning weddings on the planet. Be it photographers and videographers, planners and florists, hair and makeup artists, food and drink vendors, DJs, and celebrants, or stationery designers, their impact on creating gorgeous detailed weddings is unparalleled.

The last few days were powerful for the industry. So much to listen, learn, reflect, and adapt. We are highly inspired by the ones who are standing up and taking action every day and here are some inspirational initiatives for you to know.

 

Webinars & Podcasts To Educate The Wedding Industry

 

This is truly the time to learn and most importantly ‘unlearn’ few things. Terrica, chief wedding planner of Cocktails & Details & the wedding industry educator from the USA committed at the town hall and challenged everyone to commit to holding ourselves, each other, as well as media and educational platforms accountable to eradicate racism and bias in the wedding industry and work harder to increase diversity across the board in our networking base, clientele, and content. ⁣Check out the video here⁣

 

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If we want to be better– we have to do better. ⁣ ⁣ I’m sure you’ve inundated with the news, your own personal experiences and ⁣ social media with everything going on. One thing is for certain, it has revealed and magnified the issues within our very own industry regarding race and inclusion that have been ignored or covered up.⁣ ⁣ It’s a lot. I get it. However…⁣ ⁣ Do not let overwhelm, uncertainty or exhaustion lead you to complacency.⁣ ⁣ There are some really great and important conversations being held this week. I do hope you’ll join at least one to listen, contribute and affect change– you can check my stories for those. ⁣ ⁣ My Terrica and Friends Town Hall, Healing Wounds and Bridging the Gap: An Honest Conversation on Race and Allyship will be today at 2 PM EST on Zoom. If you’ve been to a previous Terrica and Friends get together, you know they are real, informative and actionable. This one will be no different. Link is in the bio.

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Terrica was also a part of What’s Going On Session organized by D’Concierge Design where Diann Valentine, bestselling author of Going The Distance and Wedding Designer from the USA joined.

 

 

 

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It’s time we talk about the matter loud and clear. Excellent initiative by Denise Lilly, an industry leader in bridal publishing and founder of Denise Lillie Engagements & Fusion Nclusion. Fusion Nclusion is organizing a panel discussion with industry leaders to promote a culture of more inclusiveness and diversity. Follow@fusionnclusion to know more.

 

 

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Silence Is Not Golden

 

Olufunke Bucknor Obruthe, founder of Zapphaire Events shares her sentiments through this emotional video of silence is not golden. She wrote on her Instagram, “Silence is not golden – speak up against injustice. It’s truly disheartening to see and hear all that’s going on in the world right now especially Nigeria.”

 

 

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: : It’s truly disheartening to see and hear all that’s going on in the world right now especially Nigeria .

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#unitythroughcommunity

 

Love to see wedding professionals downloading solidarity badge to show their commitment to making the wedding industry more diverse and inclusive. Just as Wedding Pro did!

 

 

The lack of diversity in the events and wedding industry led Jason Roars to create a diversity check-in template for our community to show their commitment to include diversity.

 

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To our Wedding and Event Industry… @_a_n_i_k_a and I have created a Diversity Check-In Template for our community. Inspired by @klea_mckenna, an artist who created the template for the arts community, we have adapted her language to apply to events hosted within our industry. We encourage you to use this template the next time you’re asked to participate in an industry panel, workshop, styled shoot or similar event. Ask these important questions to help build and ensure racial diversity and inclusion of Black representation within our professional community. Please also share this to spread the word and DM me if you want a copy/paste version! #BlackLivesMatter #BlackRepresentationMatters

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Share Emotions

 

Mwai, Founder of Love From Mwai from the UK said on her Instagram – “Although it doesn’t sit well for others when I say this, the wedding industry is not exempt from white privilege. It may not be caught on video, but it’s there every time we’re passed over for a speaking gig because a white individual speaks more clearly or eloquently. Every time a couple doubts that a black wedding planner and designer can pull off a luxury wedding or that vendors in Africa can be relied upon to show up on time or not rip them off because they’re wealthy.”

 

 

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Part 2 of 3 // Head to my post before this for part 1 and my post after for part 3. I shouldn’t – we shouldn’t – have to divorce ourselves from our blackness. Yet many people need to look at whether they’ve married themselves to opinions, biases, unforgiveness, bitterness, hate, or the need to show how unlike “them” they are, and divorce those. For the last few days, I have been watching and reading the news, and every time I read or watch, my heart sinks because I can’t help but think of my son. Every day, I choose to fill my heart with healing and reconciliation—for him. As parents, guardians, godmothers, aunties, or uncles, we have a duty to educate our children. Parents of white children, it’s important that you teach your children to see colour—not to make them “colour blind”—but to teach them that colour is colour and accents are accents and culture is culture that shouldn’t be shunned or appropriated or made fun of but celebrated. I teach my child the same. And right now I have to teach him over and over again that his life matters—that black lives matter. Part 3 continued in the next post. #blacklivesmatter

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As long as people can be judged by the color of their skin, the problem is not solved. Claire Pettibone beautifully points in her post.

 

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Rather than saying “I don’t see color”, let’s acknowledge that we do. Let’s examine our biases, and how they affect how we see, and relate to each other. Let’s dig a little deeper into our own hearts and see how we can grow. ⁠⠀ ⁠⠀ This is a call-out for my wedding industry friends. We loan out our dresses almost weekly for gorgeous styled shoots. 95% of those shoots feature Caucasian models. Photographers, Stylists, Planners – please consider models of color so that I will have more shades of beauty to share on my feed. I have always made a point to cast diversely in our shows and campaigns, not just because it’s the right thing to do, or out of some sense of obligation or marketing ploy, but because these women are gorgeous and they make my dresses look beautiful. Because I have a bi-racial daughter who needs to see women of color celebrated. Because I want to live in a world where racism is a part of our history, not our future. We can start with representation, but we must evolve with respect, with justice, with equal consideration, and ultimately with LOVE.⁠ If you’re planning a photo shoot with a model/bride of color, we’d love to hear from you. ⁠⠀ Email: PR@clairepettibone.com⁠⠀ ⁠⠀ #clairepettibone #blacklivesmatter #celebratelove

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It’s not just about showing the concern to the world, it’s about making a conscious choice coming from the heart that will make a difference. Anée Atelier, NYC-based photographer beautifully conveyed this message in the below post.

 

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More than acknowledgement, we desire hearts. More than gestures, we desperately desire that those who are learning, will refuse the temptation to take offense and instead, cling to a spirit of humility so that they may truly see us, get us. That their hearts and reactions will be tender towards us, sensitive to our struggles. This isn’t about outward posts, it’s about inward change. It isn’t about hiding until this thing blows over, avoiding eye contact in hopes that you won’t be called on. It’s time to put such childish practices aside. ⠀ ⠀ This isn’t simply one night to put blood on the door, while the spirit of *The Wokening* passes over your house; spending the night inside until its safe to resume “normal” life again. Normal life is what we, as the Black community, fear. ⠀ ⠀ We are not a nation undergoing plastic surgery. This is not a superficial, aesthetic update. This is heart surgery. This is a paradigm shift. It is not a rough patch or an unstable week, this is a geological event. A kairos moment. A pole shift. This is not just shaking the concrete of our foundations—it’s shifting the tectonic plates beneath our cities, our country. This is an uprising, and it’s necessary if we’re going to continue forward as a better, kinder, stronger people and the TRULY united nation that we profess to be.⠀ ⠀ This is Sheena and I will continue to speak throughout this week because I welcome this moment to #AmplifyMelanatedVoices and I hope you’ll hear my heart through my words 🖤 ⠀ *NOTE: My incredible friend, @ericataylorhaskins coined the term, “The Wokening” and it’s with her permission that I dropped that perfectly powerful gem here today. The credit’s all hers ✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿 ⠀ #blacklivesmatter#blackouttuesday#georgefloyd#justiceforgeorgefloyd

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Wedding Portals Supporting Black Vendors

 

When the movement started, it didn’t just inspire the wedding publications to put up pictures, but it changed the whole system. Many wedding portals pledged their commitment to improving their content by including more diversity.

 

 

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✨A Note from Junebug’s Editor:✨ We are not done listening and we are far from done learning. Our team has spent this week meeting to identify specific ways we can institute anti-racist practices throughout each aspect of our company, from what you see on our social feeds to how we approach operations as a business. We aren’t just rearranging our calendars to showcase more representation on our platform, we are changing our editorial, marketing, and sales processes to be inherently anti-racist and to reach communities we have failed to in the past. We so appreciate those of you who have taken the time to provide your feedback during this time, which you do not owe us and we are extremely grateful for. Recognizing that our attempts to be a diverse publication in the past have not been enough, we are looking forward to investing in working with an anti-racism consultant because we know we can’t do this work alone. As we acknowledge our privilege, both individually and collectively, and gaps in our knowledge, we are prepared to continue down the path of education towards intentional anti-racist action across our platform. This step is long overdue and we take responsibility for the time it has taken us to effectively show up for Black couples and artists. We believe that neither education nor change can happen overnight. We are in for the long haul, which will include thoughtful action in the coming days, weeks, months, and years. We hear that you want to see more Black representation, as well as diversity in other forms, on our channels, and we are committed to doing so in a way that is sustainable and not exploitative of those who share their most special days with us. This process will take time as we source and receive new content and implement what we learn from our consultant into practice. Are you a Black couple or part of a minority community and want to have your wedding featured on Junebug? We have re-opened our submissions in hopes you’ll share your weddings with us to inspire our growing community. P.S. If you have a wedding already scheduled with us in the coming months, please note that your publication date may have changed!

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The Whole World Is Together

 

 

The issue of racism is not just prevalent in the United States. It is scattered over the entire world. Classy Zim Weddings from South Africa pointed us in the right direction of looking into our own countries and raising voice against it as well.

 

Let Love Lead

There is nothing bigger than the power of love, and Blessings & Favour said it right!

 

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Let love lead 🖤

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Let’s work towards a world where the only race we belong to is humanity. The only religion we believe in is love. The only politics we understand is that of freedom. If all humanity took love and freedom as their ultimate purpose and belief, there will be no bias, no supremacy, no wars, no divisions… only peace.

Let’s make racism a thing from the past, not our future! In the wedding industry, it is all about celebrating love. Despite everything that is happening, we will continue celebrating love in all forms irrespective of the color, caste, sex of any individual. We are looking to feature black vendors from around the world. If you would like us to feature any wedding professional’s work, please send your submission to editorial@dwp-insider.com.

 

 

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