Great relationships aren’t built in a day. Great relationships are built daily.
Ah, the honeymoon phase. Those early days in your relationship when all of their jokes are funny, other couples suck in comparison to you, and every song on the radio is about you. The length of the honeymoon phase is different for every relationship, but one thing is always true: it’s what you do after the honeymoon that counts.
As the name says- ‘it’s a phase.’ When the realities of life start to creep in, and hard conversations start to bubble to the surface, you’ll naturally transition out of the honeymoon phase and a feeling of sadness might sweep through. After all, no one wants to feel red-hot passion turn into a slow simmer. But the good news? You’re not alone if you feel the post-honeymoon stage blues.
Prioritize Time With Each Other
Once the honeymoon phase is over, you might want to spend more time with friends or craving some ‘me time.’ ( Btw this is totally normal, healthy, and necessary.) When you notice this happening, make it a point to plan activities together. This could be as simple as a movie night on the couch with your favorite takeout or as romantic as a reservation at a restaurant you’ve both been dying to try. A balance of both is the key. Put in the effort to allocate some part of the day together where you can engage with each other.
Add Novelty
Think back to that lovey-dovey period. Part of what made it so great was that everything felt new. Happy couples do new things together. Commit to doing something you’ve never done before to re-create that same feeling. It doesn’t have to be scuba diving every day but even going out for a hike, or trying out a new restaurant can open to these novel feelings. Be fearless in trying new things with your partner. Who knows, you may start loving them in new ways!
Embrace The Regular
While you should keep doing unique things to keep the spark alive, sometimes there’s a sense of peace in doing mundane tasks. Cooking together, going to the grocery, watching TV shows together. Adjusting your expectations helps. It. cannot be always rosy as it was before. So
” Schade says, noting that she often tells her clients to check their narrative, because sometimes when couples complain about a stale relationship, it’s based on the loss of those chemical hormones (which, again, are in your power to bring back).
Have More Sex
Physical connection is as important as an emotional one. Keep dating. Make this a priority. There are so many ways you can experiment with your sex life and it’s important to understand that leaving the honeymoon phase doesn’t have to be the end of anything that’s positive. Talk about it, share your preferences with each other and try some new sexual fantasies. Having these conversations now will avoid frustration down the road, and it may also reignite the spark that was starting to fade.
Focus on Listening
Ask questions of your partner that spark true, deep discussion. Your question can be as simple as “How was your day?” but set the intention that you will only listen—don’t jump in with comments, questions, or advice. Shut down all distractions—including those that you often provide—and plan to truly listen to what they have to say. Ask your partner what they want.
Conclusion
Sometimes people don’t feel those intense feelings anymore, and so they say, ‘Oh, this is over.’ And that’s not what it means. It simply means you’re moving into a different stage of your relationship.
Say “I love you” often! These 3 words are golden and can change the mood of a person no matter how bad their day went. Sometimes all they want is just to know that you are there no matter what life brings to your plate. Be grateful that you have a partner and make an effort to make them feel loved in all ways possible.
